Unzip Your Mind: How to Be Vulnerable in a Depressed World
This book is not about me. It’s about you and your story.
We are in the middle of an epidemic - the suicide epidemic.
Reality check. If you live in the US, approximately 1 out of 15 people around you are suffering from depression; and about half of those people don’t seek help. The saddest part is that depression is the leading cause of suicide. Each day 123 people in the US die by suicide; and for every suicide, there are 25 unsuccessful attempts. And each year, the numbers keep going up.
This is a massive problem.
What is going on?
People, especially men, are afraid to be vulnerable and share what’s really going on inside their minds. I totally understand because this used to be me. I was depressed and didn’t want to talk to anyone about it. I was waiting for someone to ask, “How are you? Are you feeling OK? Are you feeling depressed or suicidal?” Months went by and no one asked me. I felt unloved, not important, and like it didn’t matter if I was dead or alive. I felt alone. But clearly, I wasn’t alone because millions of Americans are having the same exact thoughts.
We don’t want to bother people with our problems. We don’t want to be seen as weak, or not good enough to figure it our on our own. There is such a negative stigma to people suffering from depression, and that needs to end. People are dying. And depression can hit anyone – your mom, dad, spouse, sister, brother, and even your children.
This is why I am making a bold statement and going to say that vulnerability and sharing what’s really going on (with someone who will listen), needs to be seen as a strong and courageous move. That’s what I did and the dark cloud of depression began to fade away.
In this book, I’m going to talk about the raw and real stuff – the things that actually matter like the importance of recognizing and expressing emotions, connecting with other humans, and straight-up being who you really are, not who you think you should be.
I hope that one-day our culture can become more community-focused, as opposed to an individual and “me” centered focus. I want to bridge the gap between people who are depressed, unloved, and left in the dirt, with people who are loved, accepted, and honored in society. I’m longing for the day in which we can look at each other as we are in the most basic sense – human beings - despite how society puts people into little boxes based on how people look – whether it’s a person whose body is filled with tattoos, or a person with only one leg, or a celebrity who’s gotten bashed in the media for one remark after having a really bad day.
We all deserve connection; and we all deserve to be whom we truly are without having to hide behind a mask. We are way more alike than many of us realize. It doesn’t matter where you came from or what your story is. The truth is that we are all human beings, and we all deserve love, support, and connection.